Making a transition between university and my life prior was really difficult for me, dealing with homesickness and the sudden independence of living away from home; plus results that culminated from a loss of a close friend began to spiral into a state of depression. Upon being referred to wellbeinginoxford, with the aid of my psychotherapist I was able to freely express myself in a non judgemental environment and benefited from the sessions significantly. Furthermore to talking, she gave me homework and mindful exercises to practice for my anxiety and the more I tried, the better I got at listening to my body as well as understanding myself more. Now I use the mindful techniques almost everyday to help deal with anxieties around exam time or when I struggle to sleep.
I have suffered from low self esteem ever since I was in primary school. I was bullied in school a lot and called all sorts of names because I was fat. I hated life and started having suicidal thoughts from an early age. I don’t think I really wanted to die but desperately needed help. I also self harmed and by the age of 14 I was getting private lessons and hated going out during the day. My family moved to a small village when I was in my early 20s and I noticed that people seemed nicer. I met someone special who seemed to like me for who I am and encouraged me to talk to a professional about my depression and low self esteem issues. He even accompanied me to my first session and waited patiently for me as I was very nervous. I liked the counsellor who spoke very gently and seemed to listen. I ended up having counselling for nine months and in that time was able to confront my main issues. I still have work to do but I have already lost over two stone and recently got a job which I like. I am starting to like myself more and using mindfulness everyday. I’m not there yet but certainly not going backwards thanks to the kindness and professional help I got from you. 02/06/2016
After years of denial about my alcoholism I was forced to seek therapy when my mother passed away and my brother threatened to cut me out of his life unless I got help. It was a push that I resented at first yet became a saving line as I was able to talk about the shame I had kept all inside and tried to forget through drinking. I found talking very helpful although at times I would cancel as it was very hard to face up to the truths. A year after starting therapy and combining with support from AA I have not touched alcohol in five months and my life is already much better and for once I feel like I am living. I am fortunate to have a brother and my lovely nieces whom I adore and now free to spend more time with family without threatening anyone with my behaviour after a drink too many. I am grateful to the work of dedicated therapists at Well Being who were very patient with me and never turned me away even when I was being horrible. I miss my mother and wish she would be here to see me now but I am learning to live without her and just forming new meaningful relationships.
After losing my job through redundancy I turned to drinking more alcohol in the evenings and at first I was in control. After a while, I started drinking during the day as well and when my daughter confronted me, I denied and became a secret drinker. Things came to a head when almost a year later I could not even look myself in the mirror. I had pilled on nearly three stones and hated life so much that I became suicidal. I was put on anti depressants but I was not committed and I also found that my mood changed a lot. I had become unpredictable. It was when my daughter gave me an ultimatum booked me to have talk therapy and I reluctantly went along to what was the beginning of a challenging but life changing experience. I had therapy for 18 months and in that time I was able to shade off three stones, turn an old hobby into business which is bringing some income as well as doing something that I love. I am in a new relationship and my daughter is happy to let me look after my two beautiful grand daughters. I can never thank you enough for being patient with me and never judging me. 22/05/16
I knew my relationship was breaking down but for a long time I buried my head in the sand until a work colleague told me about Memory.I wasn’t sure at first but my colleague spoke very well of her and I told my partner we had to try or split up. We had become strangers and with Memory’s help, we are now much happier and after twelve years together and a four year old son, we are getting married this summer. We have found a balance in communicating our feelings without hurting each other or going cold for days. A big thanks to Memory.
Since my therapy sessions, I’ve discovered that true happiness comes from within and I feel a lot calmer and less anxious – thanks to the team at
When I first went to WellBingIn Oxford, I had very low self esteem and was struggling with depression and anxiety. Working with Memory, I was able to explore my thoughts and with her kind, honest and open input; I have been able to begin the ongoing work of building a healthy self esteem and enjoying life more. Memory was able to build trust with me and I always felt like she had a genuine care for my wellbeing – even when she was telling me things that I didn’t want to hear! There are sometimes difficult sessions in therapy, but I remember many sessions being a place of comfort and reflection. I came away from our work together with a higher level of self esteem and feeling a lot better.
After an accident that left me scarred I never thought I would have the confidence to wear a bikini let alone find someone who could love me for real. Memory was very empathetic and put up with my lashing yet through her patience and coaching techniques, I finally started to apply the practical suggestions and today I feel so different to where I was over eighteen months ago. I had so much anger and couldn’t get over why it had happened to me. I am not an easy person to deal with in general and am very grateful that after two failed attempts with previous Psychotherapists, partly because I wasn’t ready and perhaps we just didn’t click, yet Memory was able to hold my anger and still smiled yet challenging me that I had what it takes to enjoy life and find love. I didn’t want to believe it but the more she reminded me and through processing the difficulties, I started slowly to look in the mirror and see the beauty. I am glad that there are organisations out there that offer this service that I used to dismiss as rubbish yet has helped me and for the first time I wore a bikini and didn’t care who was noticing my scars!
“ Through counseling and life style coaching, a therapist at WellBeingIn Oxford helped me address weight issues, loss of libido and depression that threatened my personal and professional relationships. Her grasp of underlying issues and pragmatic approach resulted in a programme of change that has enabled me to improve my health and enhance my sense of well-being ”.
‘Memory ‘s professional expertise in bereavement counseling was invaluable in coming to terms with the lossof myFather,addressing ill health that arose as a consequence and reducing the dosage of the anti depressants I had been prescribed. Her empathetic approach enabled me to confront traumatic issues, manage grief and provide a platform to lead a healthier life style’.