Our relationship had reached rock bottom and we either had to go our separate ways or seek help. A colleague advised us to try Wellbeing and the first session gave us some hope although it was too early to say. Six months on we feel like we are back on track and happier than ever and expecting our first baby together in five months time. A big thank you to Wellbeing for the simple and practical tools you gave us.
Venturing to University did not turn out as I had first expected, within the first few weeks I had plummeted into a state of constant anxiety and mild depression and was finding it difficult to cope with the independent responsibilities that comes with being away from home. Upon a referral to a Well Being therapist, I found a place in which I could safely express myself without experiencing judgement, and learned to practice the art of managing my anxiety instead of allowing it to control me. I cannot thank them enough for urging me to confront my fears and control my emotions in a healthy manner; I am now enjoying my second year of University and feel a lot happier.
For a long time I had been advised to confront my anger issues and addressing their root cause but always denied that it was a serious problem until my boss asked me to seek help or risk loosing my job. I find talking about feelings really difficult except to lash out in anger because both my parents were very angry people and I grew up watching them scream at each other in anger until they divorced when I was eleven years old. The first few sessions were confusing as I did not really know how the process worked and having a very calm and composed therapist who did not react judgementally towards me was in itself out of my comfort zone. I ended up working at my anger issues with the help of a very professional yet kind therapist who challenged me in ways that did not seem obvious yet very effective. It took us six months of effort and reflecting on myself to get to a place where I am a better person both at work and at home as a result of gaining some understanding and expressing my anger in less destructive ways.
When I first went to WellBingIn Oxford, I had very low self esteem and was struggling with depression and anxiety. Working with Memory, I was able to explore my thoughts and with her kind, honest and open input; I have been able to begin the ongoing work of building a healthy self esteem and enjoying life more. Memory was able to build trust with me and I always felt like she had a genuine care for my wellbeing – even when she was telling me things that I didn’t want to hear! There are sometimes difficult sessions in therapy, but I remember many sessions being a place of comfort and reflection. I came away from our work together with a higher level of self esteem and feeling a lot better.
I found help in dealing with my pornography addiction with Well Being. At first I was sceptical and feared being judged yet I felt understood and supported that after nine months of weekly therapy sessions, I have come clean and living a more fulfilling life. Terry 04/08/18
I was sceptical when I first spoke to a counsellor from Wellbeinginoxford but decided to try. The first thing I noticed was how clean and spacious the room was together with a young looking but very professional counsellor who was clearly relaxed. She soon made me feel relaxed too and before I knew it, I was telling her how anxious I had been feeling in recent weeks following relationship issues. It had started to affect my sleep badly. Time went by so quickly and initially questioned the approach which the counsellor called Psychodynamic. About eight sessions into the therapy it all started making sense – was painful most of the times to relive my past experiences but talking about them opened up an outlet. I realised that I had so much anger rooted deep inside from my past relationship which caused me much anxieties and at times even panic attacks. She also encouraged some mindful exercises and six months on, I am sleeping a lot better and feel less anxious. I am ever so grateful to the patience of my counsellor and would go back if I need help.
I had heard a lot of negative things about counselling so I was apprehensive when I first went to see a counsellor at WellBeing. Her approach helped me to feel safe and the six months were valuable and one of the best investments I’ve ever made in my life. Some sessions were tough but all worthwhile!
After years of denial about my alcoholism I was forced to seek therapy when my mother passed away and my brother threatened to cut me out of his life unless I got help. It was a push that I resented at first yet became a saving line as I was able to talk about the shame I had kept all inside and tried to forget through drinking. I found talking very helpful although at times I would cancel as it was very hard to face up to the truths. A year after starting therapy and combining with support from AA I have not touched alcohol in five months and my life is already much better and for once I feel like I am living. I am fortunate to have a brother and my lovely nieces whom I adore and now free to spend more time with family without threatening anyone with my behaviour after a drink too many. I am grateful to the work of dedicated therapists at Well Being who were very patient with me and never turned me away even when I was being horrible. I miss my mother and wish she would be here to see me now but I am learning to live without her and just forming new meaningful relationships.
After an accident that left me scarred I never thought I would have the confidence to wear a bikini let alone find someone who could love me for real. Memory was very empathetic and put up with my lashing yet through her patience and coaching techniques, I finally started to apply the practical suggestions and today I feel so different to where I was over eighteen months ago. I had so much anger and couldn’t get over why it had happened to me. I am not an easy person to deal with in general and am very grateful that after two failed attempts with previous Psychotherapists, partly because I wasn’t ready and perhaps we just didn’t click, yet Memory was able to hold my anger and still smiled yet challenging me that I had what it takes to enjoy life and find love. I didn’t want to believe it but the more she reminded me and through processing the difficulties, I started slowly to look in the mirror and see the beauty. I am glad that there are organisations out there that offer this service that I used to dismiss as rubbish yet has helped me and for the first time I wore a bikini and didn’t care who was noticing my scars!
Having reaching rock bottom and fearing that I would lose my job, I had to confront my traumatic childhood issues and after a few consultations; WellBing turned out to be the right place for me. It was the whole package. Living with OCD from a very young age means I am very particular about cleanliness and the room was spacious and clean which was a positive. During the seven months of twice a week therapy, there was consistency and being an anxious person, I was offered either a hot drink or cold and found that always helped to calm my nerves and led me to open up about things I had repressed. I felt supported throughout and there were challenging times yet having been on that journey, I have no regrets and have so much respect for professionals who give a lot of themselves just to try and make lives of people like myself more manageable. I’m in a much better place and enjoying life more with my new found awareness and ways to manage the dark days which are far in between now.